How to cum multiple times: 8 orgasm techniques men can try

For most men, one orgasm means intimacy is over (at least for a while). The body needs time to reset before it's ready again, a recovery window called the refractory period.

That's not true for everyone, though. Some men are able to cum more than once in a single session, and sex researchers have spent decades trying to figure out how they do it.

Here's what we know about how to cum multiple times, including how common it is, what's happening in the body, and which techniques might help you cum again and again.

We recognize that not everyone with a penis identifies as a man. Gender identity is personal, and bodies don't determine gender. This information applies to anyone with the relevant anatomy, regardless of gender identity.

Some men can cum more than once in a single session, though for many it takes practice, and even then, it's a rarity.

Research on men who describe themselves as multi-orgasmic suggests it doesn’t look the same for everyone. Some have orgasms spaced minutes apart, while others have quick bursts of 2–4 orgasms from a few seconds to two minutes.

Either way, it's uncommon. One study found that fewer than 10% of men in their 20s, and fewer than 7% of men over 30, say they can do this.

A study of 122 multi-orgasmic men found something different from the popular idea of what multiple orgasms look like: rather than needing to avoid ejaculation, most ejaculated with every orgasm in the series. The majority reported 2–4 orgasms per session, and most stayed erect throughout.

But men remain well behind women: Among people who regularly orgasm during partnered sex, females are about twice as likely as males to have more than one orgasm during heterosexual partnered sex.

That said, much of this research is older and based on small samples. So, the overall picture is still limited.

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There are multiple techniques you can try to teach yourself to have multiple orgasms. They mostly come down to noticing what's happening in your body a few seconds before you'd normally stop paying attention.

Here are eight of the most popular things men try to practice cumming more than once during sex:

1. Start solo and get to know physical cues

Before trying it with a partner, get a feel for cumming repeatedly on your own. Masturbate as usual, but pay close attention to the sensations in the moment right before ejaculation feels inevitable.

Get to know what those physical signals feel like for you — maybe a specific kind of tension, a change in breathing, or a particular spot where the buildup is strongest. Try pausing there a few times in a session instead of pushing through every time.

This kind of body awareness is linked to better ejaculatory control. A large study found that higher self-reported interoceptive awareness was associated with fewer premature ejaculation (PE) symptoms.

It’s also the foundation every other technique on this list depends on. They likely won’t work if you can't first recognize the point right before you feel you can’t hold back anymore.

2. Try breathing exercises

Slow, deep breathing from the diaphragm can calm the autonomic nervous system, which may help settle the reflex behind ejaculation. 

In one trial, men who added deep breathing to pelvic-floor and stop-start training showed a larger increase in ejaculation time than those who didn’t (though the difference between groups may not have been statistically significant). Try a slow four-count in through the nose, hold for seven, then a longer eight-count exhale through the mouth. Keeping your breath low in the belly rather than the chest may also help.

You could also try bringing a similar slow-breathing rhythm into high arousal moments, at the point where the urge to rush toward ejaculation is strongest. Though the trial that tested deep belly breathing had men practice it separately, twice daily, rather than during sex itself.

3. Practice the stop-start method

When you feel yourself getting close to cumming, stop stimulation completely until the urge fades, then start again. Repeat this cycle a few times in a session, whether solo or with a partner, before finishing.

This is the same edging technique used to treat premature ejaculation. A review of the trial evidence found mixed results overall: Of four trials that tested a similar technique against no treatment, two found men lasted significantly longer, while two found no significant difference.

The repetition is the point: each cycle is practice at recognizing and backing off from the edge of ejaculation, arguably the same skill multiple orgasms depend on.

4. Try the squeeze technique

Instead of stopping completely, firmly squeeze the head of the penis for several seconds right as you approach climax. Release, let the urge fade, then continue.

As with the stop-start method, repeat this a few times in one session. The idea, as with stop-start, is to learn to recognize the feelings of arousal well enough to interrupt them before they build past the point of no return.

The squeeze technique has been tested as part of combined behavioral therapy against no treatment for premature ejaculation. Because it is typically studied alongside the stop-start technique rather than on its own, it’s hard to compare how effective it is compared to other techniques. 

That being said it is worth trying as another route to the same underlying goal: staying close to orgasm without tipping into ejaculation.

5. Try sensate focus with a partner

Sensate focus is a series of touching exercises, usually done in stages, where partners touch each other with no goal of arousal or orgasm at first.

Early sessions stick to non-genital touch, for example, the arms, back, or scalp, focusing only on what it feels like to give and receive touch. Later sessions add genital touch, still without the goal of finishing.

Sensate focusshows mixed results, though. In-person sessions with a partner helped, but a version delivered entirely online didn't.

6. Train your pelvic floor

Pelvic floor muscles are the ones you'd clench to stop yourself from urinating midstream. You can train them through exercises called Kegels.

They’re not just useful for urination, though. Being able to tighten these muscles as you approach climax can possibly help you hold off on ejaculating. To do so, squeeze (contract) the muscles for about three seconds, then release for the same amount of time, building up to about 10 reps a few times a day.

Inone training program, more than half of the men who completed several months of pelvic floor training saw meaningful ejaculatory control improvement, with the biggest gains in men under 35.

That program went beyond simple at-home exercises, though. Alongside learning to time contractions to the pre-orgasmic phase, it included clinically supervised elements like biofeedback and, for some patients, electrical stimulation.

Simple daily Kegels on their own haven't been tested to the same degree, so think of this as suggestive rather than proven for a self-directed routine.

7. Explore prostate stimulation

Theprostate, sometimes called the male G-spot or nicknamed P-spot, is a gland that can be stimulated through the rectal wall.

In clinical reviews that touch on prostate stimulation, some men report the sensation as more intense than penile stimulation alone, and some reach orgasm without ejaculating at all.

Common approaches include using a finger, a toy designed for the purpose, or applying firm external pressure on the area between the scrotum and anus (perineum). However, this is based on general sexual health guidance rather than clinical research specifically testing these methods.

If you decide to try it, go slowly, use plenty of lubricant, and stop if anything feels uncomfortable.

8. Manage sensitivity after the first orgasm

In the minutes right after ejaculation, the body enters a recovery window (the refractory period) when arousal and genital responsiveness dip, so it can take more direct stimulation to feel the same sensation as before.

There's no well-established, tested technique for working through this dip specifically. Some men find firmer pressure, broader touch, or a brief pause to focus on another part of the body helps. But none of this has been studied directly, so treat it as something to experiment with rather than a proven method.

Remember, none of these techniques change anything overnight — where they've been studied, results have generally taken weeks or months of regular practice to show up, though that’s not a promise of a particular outcome. So give yourself at least the same amount of time before deciding whether something's working for you.

When you cum, two things happen in your body: orgasm and ejaculation. They're often used interchangeably and can feel like one event, but they're separate processes. It’s learning to distinguish them that makes a second (or maybe even third or fourth) orgasm possible.

So what’s the difference? Ejaculation is the physical release of semen. Orgasm is the wave of muscle contractions and pleasure the brain produces.

They usually happen within seconds of each other, and ejaculation may trigger hormonal changes linked to the refractory period. Some research suggests men who can experience multiple orgasms ejaculate with each one. Butin older interviews with men who described themselves as multi-orgasmic, a non-ejaculatory orgasm could happen either before or after an ejaculatory one.

Prolactin, a hormone that’s released around climax, is often pointed to as the reason for that switch. Lowering it experimentally in a small group of men improved their sex drive and how they felt about their recovery time afterward.

That lines up with a case study of a multi-orgasmic man whose body didn't show the usual after-orgasm hormone surge that nine other men with a typical recovery period did. His body seemed to have skipped the step that normally shuts arousal down.

Butwhen researchers tested prolactin's role directly in mice, adjusting its levels didn't change how quickly they recovered their sex drive after mating, so the hormone probably isn’t the full explanation.

One way some men experience multiple orgasms is by learning to separate orgasm from ejaculation, or reaching climax without ejaculating, which sidesteps the hormonal trigger that starts the refractory period. (Many multi-orgasmic men still ejaculate each time, though, so this is just one route, not the only one.) 

The techniques are ways of practicing that: noticing the point right before ejaculation and holding back from it to maximize your pleasure while avoiding the refractory period.

It's completely normal to not achieve multiple orgasms. Most men never get to experience it for themselves.

The refractory period is also sometimes believed to lengthen with age, though one review notes this commonly repeated claim hasn't been rigorously studied.

If erectile dysfunction (ED) or premature ejaculation makes it hard to even practice these techniques, that's something to address on its own first.

Some men taking the ED medication Viagra (sildenafil) find it easier to get another erection after finishing. Evidence for Cialis (tadalafil) having the same effect is weaker.

Sildenafil specifically can shorten the refractory period, though results are mixed on whether that translates to better sexual function overall.

While one placebo-controlled tadalafil trial found no meaningful improvement in ejaculatory measures compared with placebo, this is just one study and additional research is needed to better understand the effects of tadalafil on ejaculation and the refractory period. 

If the goal is getting back in the game sooner rather than having multiple orgasms in one session, staying physically close and keeping up non-genital touch instead of stopping can help. A proposed explanation for the refractory period points to peripheral arousal feedback rather than a hard hormonal switch.

That means staying at least somewhat aroused could keep that feedback loop from fully resetting.

If you're ejaculating more or less than you used to,there's no correct frequency to aim for. Talk to a healthcare provider if frustration builds up, as chasing a specific outcome tends to work against you in bed.

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Multiple orgasms in men are possible to work toward, but they're rare, and they're not a requirement for good sex. Here’s what to know:

• A small share of men can achieve more than one orgasm in a session. Doing it can sometimes mean separating the feeling of climax from ejaculation itself, which most bodies are wired to bundle together. You can also train towards having multiple orgasms by practicing techniques like edging that could help you separate orgasm from ejaculation.  

• The refractory period gets in the way for almost everyone else. It's the recovery stretch that follows ejaculation, during which arousal and erections become temporarily unresponsive to further stimulation until it passes.

• Several methods share the same skill of noticing arousal early. Edging and pelvic floor training work by catching the sensation that comes right before ejaculation and interrupting it, and sensate focus builds a related kind of body awareness.

• Progress can take time. The pelvic floor and behavioral techniques these skills draw on were studied over as long as several months of consistent practice, so give yourself a similar runway rather than expecting quick results.

ED and premature ejaculation can make it harder to practice any of this. If either of these is getting in your way of learning how to cum multiple times, Ro can connect you with a licensed healthcare provider who treats both.